Cabin Fever

The phenomenon where people begin to feel constricted by there environment- people the Walls. No new information being brought in, no new experiences, no time lost, feeling that it is all the same. Thoughts and emotions begin to circle with no outlet and as they circulate they begin to become trapping, sometimes to extreme degrees unable to disrupt the patterns of thoughts. We all have a system for getting things done- but we typically are not prepared for making changes in the way we do things when winter hits- it's somewhat unexpected but we cannot assume the same routine, that is typically effective when we are out of the house more often will work. Our typical routine involves greater activity and interaction. So cabin fever or having a sense that the walls are closing in on you can be a wakeup call that you need to make adjustments and try and plug into some different areas of creativity and connection. Different being the optimal word, take time to write friends that you haven't spoken too. Listen to music, skype a friend, make sure that you break your typical routine and try and connect with people. This is a psychological phenomenon that is brought on by limiting environments so we must find healthy ways to expand our minds in the face of constricting environments. There is a rationale as to why they place people in solitary confinement it's because left to our devices without real connection to others we can become self destructive so take new information in try new things and connect with others. It may feel that thoughts start to bang of the inside of your head too much clutter and not enough action or movement. So take steps towards shaking it up, turn on some music and dance around the house! Just a thought!

To do list - breaking down expectations

Breaking Down Unrealistic Expectations

1. Making to do lists- this is a commonsensical approach to your day,week, and year. Make sure that you keep track of things accomplished in order to give yourself credit. If there are lofty goals that you have in mind figure out how to break them down into manageable portions. If i want to become less frustrated, what are somethings that cause me the greatest frustration? How do i begin to deal with them differently on a daily, weekly basis?

2. Whose expectations am I trying to live up to? Are they mine or some assumed or preconceived notion of who and what I need to be. Is it my spouse, my parent, my boss,my children, who? This question may not be able to be answered right away but begin to recognize that you are internalizing messages from around you that are contributing to the pressure that you feel. Are you able to truly satisfy that person and have the expectations been clearly given to you or are they your perception of what is expected. The problem with all of us is that unclear expectations from others is fertile ground for anxiety often confused and left feeling that I am never good enough.

3. Try and learn to like yourself, give yourself the same consideration that you may give to someone else as a friend or family member. Learn to laugh at yourself, life is constantly changing so we must give ourselves room to laugh at how sometimes we may struggle,as much as we may not like it -to struggle is to be human.


Hopefully these are helpful to you today!

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Anxiety-Expectations

Expectations are good when couched with understanding and education. I think of my children and the thoughts about their abilities to do things. For example, How quick they can get their homework done? How good they are at a sport? And sometimes it’s expectations of others such  as “Aren’t you going to buy those shoes for me?” Think about the emotional fallout from assuming or thinking that things should be a certain way. We are all guilty of it, not just my kids. How does this play out in your life? What are the types of things that you expect of yourself and the world around you that serve as to perpetuate feelings of dissatisfaction? Anxiety often is what we don’t expect but with the help of AR and coming to the realization of it, we can begin to manage it. So if your hope is that anxiety will  just disappear, this for most people is an unrealistic expectation. Anxiety is a pattern of response to stress  and  the suffering that is brought on by the feelings and responses.

How do I breakdown the fallout from these expectations?

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"It is what it is"

Resignation is not failure particularly when it relates to try to fix other people or relationships. We often hold into the dream of things being much different than what they are, but at what price. It is often in an attempt to avoid the emotional reality that life and people are not as we wish they would be. Anxiety is increased by the sense of responsibility in trying to make things different, instead of just accepting that "It is what it is".