Breaking Down Unrealistic Expectations
1. Making to do lists- this is a commonsensical approach to your day,week, and year. Make sure that you keep track of things accomplished in order to give yourself credit. If there are lofty goals that you have in mind figure out how to break them down into manageable portions. If i want to become less frustrated, what are somethings that cause me the greatest frustration? How do i begin to deal with them differently on a daily, weekly basis?
2. Whose expectations am I trying to live up to? Are they mine or some assumed or preconceived notion of who and what I need to be. Is it my spouse, my parent, my boss,my children, who? This question may not be able to be answered right away but begin to recognize that you are internalizing messages from around you that are contributing to the pressure that you feel. Are you able to truly satisfy that person and have the expectations been clearly given to you or are they your perception of what is expected. The problem with all of us is that unclear expectations from others is fertile ground for anxiety often confused and left feeling that I am never good enough.
3. Try and learn to like yourself, give yourself the same consideration that you may give to someone else as a friend or family member. Learn to laugh at yourself, life is constantly changing so we must give ourselves room to laugh at how sometimes we may struggle,as much as we may not like it -to struggle is to be human.
Hopefully these are helpful to you today!
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